Irawhiti Takatāpui, Transgender, and Intersex NZ
Sometimes our relationships have dynamics which are unhealthy, harmful, or even abusive. This article talks about signs that something may not be working, identifying unhealthy dynamics in a relationship, and dealing with common scenarios for trans people. It touches on working through some issues, or leaving a relationship which may be difficult or dangerous to leave.
If a relationship is unhealthy or abusive, it may be very difficult to end it amicably. Your partner may not accept that you want to end the relationship: they may try to make you feel guilty, afraid to leave, or worried that they will not cope. They may even threaten to hurt you, your loved ones, or themself. Even if they do not accept that the relationship is ending, you do not have to stay in the relationship.
One aspect of having healthier, safer, and more productive arguments is planning how to argue. Partners can choose a time when there is no stress and argument to be had, and sit down together to talk about how they can have better arguments.
If a person has experienced trauma in the past, such as being the victim/survivor of sexual violence, they may have very strong emotions such as anger or fear which are associated with an element present when the initial trauma happened. This element - or trigger - can be anything from a smell to a certain word or phrase, it could be a particular sexual activity or position, or any number of other elements.
Respect looks different to each person, and the things that feel respectful to one person may feel disrespectful to another. Use these tips to start a conversation about respect.
Showing at Penthouse Cinema 22 Nov 2020, the film ''Ambisexuality: Seeing More Colour in the Rainbow'' was advertised to include a panel discussion by GMA National Coordinator Ahi Wi-Hongi, Dame Catherine Healy DNZM, Georgina Beyer MNZM, and director James Watson. Gender Minorities Aotearoa explains it's position on the concepts the film discusses, and why Ahi … Continue reading Ambisexuals or Chasers?
Great practical advice on consent, hookups and one night stands, dealing with trauma, and discussing triggers. From our new series 'Sex and Sexuality for Trans People'.
Counting Ourselves transgender health research found elevated stigma, discrimination, violence against trans people.
Please take time this weekend to fill in the Counting Ourselves survey that we helped to develop, so we have large scale national data on takataapui, trans, and intersex people's health.
Transgender NZ Issue 2. (Summer 2017 - 2018) Sex and Relationships is coming out soon!
We want your love letters, your poetry, your song lyrics, your art. We want to share your heartaches, your strategies for dealing with difficult or abusive situations, your jokes, your korero on love or sex or hooking up...