Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship Dynamic

Sometimes our relationships have dynamics which are unhealthy, harmful, or even abusive. This article talks about signs that something may not be working, identifying unhealthy dynamics in a relationship, and dealing with common scenarios for trans people. It touches on working through some issues, or leaving a relationship which may be difficult or dangerous to leave.

Ending an Abusive Relationship

If a relationship is unhealthy or abusive, it may be very difficult to end it amicably. Your partner may not accept that you want to end the relationship: they may try to make you feel guilty, afraid to leave, or worried that they will not cope. They may even threaten to hurt you, your loved ones, or themself. Even if they do not accept that the relationship is ending, you do not have to stay in the relationship.

A Good Argument: how to fight without fighting

One aspect of having healthier, safer, and more productive arguments is planning how to argue. Partners can choose a time when there is no stress and argument to be had, and sit down together to talk about how they can have better arguments.

Triggers: Past Trauma Memories and How to Discuss Them

If a person has experienced trauma in the past, such as being the victim/survivor of sexual violence, they may have very strong emotions such as anger or fear which are associated with an element present when the initial trauma happened. This element - or trigger - can be anything from a smell to a certain word or phrase, it could be a particular sexual activity or position, or any number of other elements.

Dating a Trans Person 101: Respect

Respect looks different to each person, and the things that feel respectful to one person may feel disrespectful to another. Use these tips to start a conversation about respect.

Ambisexuals or Chasers?

Showing at Penthouse Cinema 22 Nov 2020, the film ''Ambisexuality: Seeing More Colour in the Rainbow'' was advertised to include a panel discussion by GMA National Coordinator Ahi Wi-Hongi, Dame Catherine Healy DNZM, Georgina Beyer MNZM, and director James Watson. Gender Minorities Aotearoa explains it's position on the concepts the film discusses, and why Ahi … Continue reading Ambisexuals or Chasers?

Consent: Sex and Sexuality for Trans People

Great practical advice on consent, hookups and one night stands, dealing with trauma, and discussing triggers. From our new series 'Sex and Sexuality for Trans People'.

Landmark Trans Health Report Shows Widespread Disparity

Counting Ourselves transgender health research found elevated stigma, discrimination, violence against trans people.