This workbook presents many common myths about transgender people’s bodies and associated sexual behaviors, alongside the facts. It then prompts learners to choose a myth they know about, and write down the fact alongside it, including any experiences or supporting information that shows their fact is true. Then learners express their fact, or their feelings … Continue reading What do bodies mean
This booklet discusses getting to safety, your rights, medical and emergency contraceptive support, medical forensic examination, making a complaint to Police, legal support, counseling and ACC, crisis support, and support from friends and family. This resource for transgender adults is from our online course The transgender guide to sex and relationships. It discusses sensitive topics, … Continue reading If you are sexually assaulted – understanding your options
The transgender guide to sex and relationships is a free online course designed to provide interesting, fun, insightful, and practical information for transgender adults. It aims to assist you in exploring ideas around your body and sense of self, what you like and don’t like, your needs and limits, communication, sex, and relationships. The course … Continue reading The transgender guide to sex and relationships
In November 2022, we will be launching a free online course on relationships and sex for transgender adults. Whats in the course The course will cover foundational knowledge, our relationships with ourselves and our bodies, communication, relationships, safer sex, and better sex. It has around 12 hours of content, including videos, workbooks, and articles. It … Continue reading Upcoming course on relationships and sex for transgender adults
Sometimes our relationships have dynamics which are unhealthy, harmful, or even abusive. This article talks about signs that something may not be working, identifying unhealthy dynamics in a relationship, and dealing with common scenarios for trans people. It touches on working through some issues, or leaving a relationship which may be difficult or dangerous to leave. Continue reading Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship Dynamic
If a relationship is unhealthy or abusive, it may be very difficult to end it amicably. Your partner may not accept that you want to end the relationship: they may try to make you feel guilty, afraid to leave, or worried that they will not cope. They may even threaten to hurt you, your loved ones, or themself. Even if they do not accept that the relationship is ending, you do not have to stay in the relationship. Continue reading Ending an Abusive Relationship
One aspect of having healthier, safer, and more productive arguments is planning how to argue. Partners can choose a time when there is no stress and argument to be had, and sit down together to talk about how they can have better arguments. Continue reading A Good Argument: how to fight without fighting
If a person has experienced trauma in the past, such as being the victim/survivor of sexual violence, they may have very strong emotions such as anger or fear which are associated with an element present when the initial trauma happened. This element – or trigger – can be anything from a smell to a certain word or phrase, it could be a particular sexual activity or position, or any number of other elements. Continue reading Trauma triggers
One of the most important things in a relationship is having your own autonomy – or getting to make decisions for yourself. If both or all partners get to be in charge of their own lives, then you have a great foundation for making room for each other and growing together. When one person controls another person, it’s easy for the relationship to become abusive. Continue reading It’s Your Choice: Personal Autonomy in a Relationship
Respect looks different to each person, and the things that feel respectful to one person may feel disrespectful to another. Use these tips to start a conversation about respect. Continue reading Dating a Trans Person 101: Respect
