Consensus decision making

Consensus decision making

Consensus decision making is a method of discussing issues and making decisions together.

This resource is designed to assist with communication, community discussions, community organising, and organising events or activities collectively. It can be useful in both formal and informal groups; including families, friends, and relationship.

You can download this PDF below, or purchase a poster at our online store here.

This resource pairs well with our Active listening resource.

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2021-2022 annual report

2021-2022 annual report

Check out some key activities we did in 2021 below, or see our 2021-2022 Annual Report to find out more.

Core priority areas for 2021

1. Wrap around support.
2. Healthcare.
3. Housing.
4. Identity Documents.
5. Connectedness.
6. Sexual violence prevention.

We provided 1:1 peer support over 2,000 times, and there were over 600 visits to our Wellington drop in centre. Our website was visited over 101,000 times with 209,000 page views.

Our healthcare referral system was used over 6,000 times, and we received over 1,100 referrals from healthcare providers across the country. Our HRT guide was read over 5,000 times. We also trained over 500 healthcare workers, particularly in mental health and addictions.

Our Rainbow Housing NZ group grew by 500 members to 3,100+, Housing was an area which suffered greatly due to covid 19, so this year much of our work in this area was in supporting individuals to find housing.

We held a successful campaign to pass the BDMRR Bill for self determination/self ID on birth certificates. Our resources were read 15,600+ times, we distributed 100’s of pamphlets and posters, the community turned out amazing submissions, and the law was passed. Our guide to updating your birth certificate sex marker updates was also read 2,000+ times, and a member of our staff became a Justice of the Peace to witness birth certificate documents.

We facilitated connectedness for 2,100+ trans people, whānau, and supporters in our online Transgender and Intersex NZ group, our “trans 101” resource was read more than 42,000 times (15,000 more times than in 2020), and our main parents resource was read more than 1,000 times (double 2020).

We released 6 new healthy relationships and sexual violence prevention resources in 2021. We also began work with Intersex Aotearoa on a joint project – ARC (Anti-violence Resource Centre) which will launch in 2022. We worked on the government’s National strategy to eliminate family violence and sexual violence, together with other members of the Rainbow Violence Prevention Network (RVPN).

Work with us – seeking rainbow violence prevention network coordinator

Work with us – seeking rainbow violence prevention network coordinator

Are you passionate about LGBTQIA+ communities and violence prevention? Do you have lived experience or skills that you’d like to contribute to our communities?

The Rainbow Violence Prevention Network is in search of a Coordinator to support us to collectively identify and work towards strategies for violence prevention in rainbow, transgender, and intersex communities across Aotearoa.  Our key aim is to support the capacity of the RVPN to grow, and help create sustainable change for rainbow communities across Aotearoa. 

The job role 

Your role would be to work alongside the RVPN to make sure that the network is well connected and delivers successful projects in line with our strategic direction. We connect with online tools like Zoom and Google Drive, so we are looking for someone who feels comfortable using these platforms. 

The role scope includes two key components: 

1. Administrative tasks – Organising meetings, taking minutes, developing agendas, procedures and processes.

2. Communications – Maintaining an active presence within the sexual and family violence sector, ensuring RVPN members are well connected.

Hours, remuneration, and other details

Hours & remuneration: $27 p/h, 20 hours per week

Location: Ideally in Wellington, but open to flexibility. Candidate may choose to work from either, or a combination of – home, the InsideOUT office in Wellington CBD and the TOAH-NNEST office in Lower Hutt.

Term: Fixed term for 12 months, with likelihood of extension 

Reports to: The RVPN Coordinator will be employed and supported day-to-day by InsideOUT Kōaro and will be managed by and report to a sub-committee of the RVPN. 

About RVPN

In 2018, TOAH-NNEST Tauiwi Caucus responded to a request from a group of individuals and Rainbow organisations who wanted to collaborate to advance work in this space. This was part of a commitment to support sexual violence prevention initiatives led by marginalised communities. An informal network was subsequently formed and has met monthly since.

Currently, the RVPN is made up of the following individuals and organisations:

TOAH-NNEST – Te о̄haakii – ā hine – national network ending sexual violence together tauiwi caucus, Tiwhanawhana Trust, InsideOUT Koaro, Gender Minorities Aotearoa, Intersex Aotearoa, Te Ngakau Kahukura, Tommy Hamilton, RainbowYOUTH, Rainbow Support Collective, The Manalagi Project, Rainbow Path, Rape Prevention Education, RespectED Aotearoa, HELP Auckland, Wellington Rape Crisis, Shakti Youth, Friendship House.

Why us? 

The broad purpose of the Network is to collectively identify and work towards strategies for violence prevention in Rainbow communities across Aotearoa. We’re searching for someone who shares our values and outcomes, listed below: 

1. A commitment to Te Tiriti o Waitangi, honouring matauranga Māori and tikanga Māori.
2. Autonomous.
3. Collaborative.
4. Proactive and responsive.
5. Accessible to mainstream services.
6. Visible of sexuality, gender, and sex characteristic diverse people.
7. Engaged in lobbying.
8. Engaged in literature and research development.
9. Engaged in intersectional analysis and cross-cultural practice.
10. Engaged in assisting to improve competency and awareness within the sector.

How to apply: 

To apply for this role email your CV and cover letter to by 23/11/21. 

Applications will be reviewed by multiple network RVPN members. 

If you have any questions about the role itself, please contact Tabby on the above email address.



Gender Minorities Aotearoa is hosting SHE + THEY during Fringe Festival and Pride Month in Wellington.

“Love in transition… in rural NZ.”

A New Zealand Premiere by the writer/performer of award-winning “”ZE.”

When: 17 to 21 March, 6:30pm to 7:30pm.
Where: Aunty Dana’s Op Shop, 130 Riddiford Street, Newtown.
Cost: $10 Concessions, $15 Standard.
Accessibility: Aunty Dana’s is on the ground floor, it is up 2 steps with a hand rail, The bathroom is all-genders and has a hand rail. The lighting is non-fluro tubing, or non-fluro lamps. It is a low allergen space, with tile flooring, no air-freshers, and we ask that you please refrain from wearing perfume or cologne.

Supported by Zir Productions, Gender Minorities Aotearoa, Aunty Dana’s Op Shop, and Creative NZ- Arts Council of New Zealand Toi Aotearoa. Part of Fringe Festival, Celebrating 30 Years at the Fringe. Tix and Bits at

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Raw Sugar Monthly Sober Social is back for 2020!

What and who:

Join us for kai and social chats with lovely people, bring yourself, whanau and friends, and some kai to share if you want to. Kai and chats go for the first two hours, and then we watch a film for the last two hours. The film is often rated R16 or R18, but the kai and chats are suitable for all ages. Doors close at the halfway point, so please arrive by then so someone can let you in.

When and where:

Raw Sugar Wellington is held on the second Saturday each month, from 4 till 8pm during summer, and from 2 till 6pm during winter, at the GMA Wellington office and community drop in (The Gender Centre Wellington).

The Gender Centre Wellington is on the first floor above Aunty Dana’s Op Shop – come through the store and out the back and then upstairs, or ask at the shop counter.


It is not mobility accessible at the moment. There are all-genders toilets, and the lighting is non-fluorescent. It is a low allergen space, so no sprays or air-freshers, and please don’t wear perfume or cologne. Disability assist animals are welcome, however due to allergies and phobias please do not bring any other animals.

Summer times:

March – 14th, 4pm kai, 6pm film, 8pm finish.
April – 11th, 4pm kai, 6pm film, 8pm finish.

Winter times:

May – 2pm kai, 4pm film, 6pm finish.
June – 13th, 2pm kai, 4pm film, 6pm finish.
July – 11th, 2pm kai, 4pm film, 6pm finish.
August – 8th, 2pm kai, 4pm film, 6pm finish.
September – 12th, 2pm kai, 4pm film, 6pm finish.

Summer times:

October – 10th, 4pm kai, 6pm film, 8pm finish.
November – 14th, 4pm kai, 6pm film, 8pm finish.

End of 2020:

December – 12th – no Raw Sugar.

December – 29th – join us for a community water fight at Vinegar Hill gay camp, Putai Ngahere reserve, near Hunterville. It is free to come for a day trip, just pay $5 each to the Queen at The Palace marquee. Details and prices for overnight camping are available here.

RAW sUGAR 2020